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Jan. 27, 2022

4 steps to Persistence Pt 3 - Negative Influences

4 steps to Persistence Pt 3 - Negative Influences

Is your enthusiasm for your new goal starting to wear off?  There is a reason for that and usually has to do with setting the wrong type of goal.  Aren’t all goals good?  They’re moving us in the right direction?  Short answer NO.
Today we are going to c...


Is your enthusiasm for your new goal starting to wear off?  There is a reason for that and usually has to do with setting the wrong type of goal.  Aren’t all goals good?  They’re moving us in the right direction?  Short answer NO.

Today we are going to cover the last step of Napoleon Hill’s 4 steps to Persistence:

  • A mind closed tightly against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances.

 

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SUMMARY KEYWORDS

people, fear, goal, negative influences, person, paradigm, self image, steps, harmony, buddha, week, autopilot, persistence, mind, friends, affirmations, beliefs, cybernetic mechanism, feel, life

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When accomplishing your goals or setting forth on an adventure for your goals and your lovely life, sometimes we can get sidetracked by other people, the negativity of other people or sometimes our biggest fans are so we thought they would be, don't turn out to be like that. So what do we do in the midst of that? I got your back, we're going to be talking about Napoleon Hill's four steps to persistence and it's going to help you stay rock solid in your goals and your vision and your dreams. So stick with us for today's episode.

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The following was recorded in front of a live studio audience at the studio 21 podcast cafe. This is the United Podcast Network.

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Welcome to rat race reboot. I'm your host, Laura Noel. And as a certified coach and former 27 year military leader, each week, I provide bite sized mindset pivots that will help you reset your mind reawaken your spirit and regain your control. Hi, everybody, and welcome back. Again, we're wrapping up Napoleon Hills, four steps to persistence. And it's really what is necessary if you have any chance in accomplishing your goals and gaining momentum. So this is a doozy. I kind of jumped around a little bit and I saved the best to last I guess this is step three, of developing persistence. And it's a mind close tightly against all negative influences, discouraging influences, including negative suggestions or relatives, friends, and acquaintances. And I found this little parable about the Buddha that I've heard before, and I'm really paraphrasing it. It wasn't exactly this, but I'm going to read this to you because I think this is really powerful. And it's something that I've kept near and dear to my heart. And it's so important. It has said that one day the Buddha was walking through a village, a very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him saying all kinds of rude words. The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead, he asked the young man, tell me, if you buy a gift for somebody, and that person doesn't take it, to whom does the gift belong? The young man was surprised to be asked by such a strange question and answered, It would belong to me because I bought the gift. The Buddha smiled and said, That's correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me, and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only person who becomes unhappy, not me, all you have done is hurt yourself. So I'm paraphrasing that. And I think it's really relevant to what we're talking about here today. Because when you are on the path to growth, and when you're really talking about accomplishing see type of goals, which was back a couple of episodes ago, when we started on this journey. And using that quantum leap handbook, you might find that some people who you thought would be in your corner, end up not being in your corner. And you might find that as you're growing, some people are unconsciously or consciously trying to sabotage you or hold you back. And that's not to be all gloom and doom. But it kind of reminds me of that, that idea of the crabs in the bucket when they're when one's trying to get out and the other ones are pulling it back down into the bucket. And really it has, you know, it's a couple steps away from freedom of climbing out of that bucket. But if we don't take those actions to heart, and so personally, they can't hurt us. Remember, we all are governed by our subconscious thoughts and our habits and our paradigms in our subconscious mind about 96 to 98% of all of your behavior is governed by this paradigm. So a lot of the knee jerk reactions we have the limiting beliefs that we have.

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Some of the unconscious decisions that we make, are ruled by our paradigm. But if you've been following me for a while you have a new level of awareness and you know, that it doesn't have to be that way. You can change your paradigm to align with what you want to create. But there are a lot of people out there who don't know that. And so when you are branching off and you're leveling up and you're setting your goals and you're setting yourself to new heights, some of the very People who love you the most, might seem like they're lashing out at you, and, you know, trying to sabotage you. But really, a lot of those people are suffering, they have their own paradigms that they're contending with. And it has absolutely nothing to do with you. You know, some of the, the misguided ways that we can help people is sometimes people, if they have a paradigm of fear, or they're looking at something that you would do, who I wouldn't do that I would be so afraid, they love you. And they're trying to prevent you from being hurt. So they're allowing their paradigm to dictate some of the things that they would say to you to get you to stop. And because they don't want you to hurt yourself. And then there's other people who are, that's a fear response, right. And there's other ways that fear can crop up in other people, they might be afraid that they're going to lose you. And they don't realize they have a choice, you're climbing out of the crab bucket, and they don't realize that they can go with you, they're going to be stuck there on their own. But the key is, is not to take those things. So personally, don't take them to heart. We released all that baggage in December, this is not your baggage to own. So you don't want to release your baggage be open to receiving and then carry somebody else's, right. You want to be open to receiving, you know, all the good that's coming to you. And again, you're the composite of the five people that you associate with the most, I talked about in the steps to persistence, having a group of people or a mastermind around you, or coach or mentor who can help coach and guide you and they're not going to, you know, be side swept by the fear and talk you out of doing the very good that you want to be doing in the world. Okay, so you can arm yourself against a lot of this stuff by building a rock solid self image. And that's what we're going to talk about today. You need to protect yourself from the negative influences of other people, and even your own negative inner critic, right? So it would be really helpful for you to build a rock solid self image, your self image, if you remember, is a part of your paradigm. It's a cybernetic mechanism. It's

 

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like that it's kind of like the autopilot on a plane, right? So you are taken off, you're in a plane going from New York to Paris, and the autopilot is clicked on however you re clicking on I was in the Air Force, I don't know how you engage the autopilot. But nevertheless, you engage the autopilot, and the plane is moving in the direction of Paris and it starts to deviate off course, while the autopilot is engaged, it will pull it back slowly but surely back to its target back to home base, right? Well, your self image is like a cybernetic mechanism. It's a part of your paradigm. And so when you start to set a see goal for yourself, and you develop this plan, and you're taking action, and you have your mastermind and your coach, and your coach is pushing you and holding you accountable, you might find that your old paradigm will start to creep up that that that inner critic that voice of dissent, and if you start to listen to it and engage it, slowly, but surely, you will be redirected back to your old setpoint doing the same old things that you were doing before. Maybe it's not so bad in that crab bucket, maybe you climb back in, say hi to your old friends. But you don't even realize it's happening. It's so subtle. So arming yourself with a self image that's in alignment with where you want to go is key to keeping you focused as well, as well as having that, that team of support around you. So how do you do that? Well, start by acknowledging, just putting it out there on the table. What are some of your fears, you're thinking about your goal? Maybe you are building your mastermind around you or you're finding people who are like minded and you feel a little bit afraid a little bit alone, because you're noticing that that voice of dissent is you know, coming up for yourself but also in other people who love and support you too. And you weren't expecting that. But write down some of your fears. Get it out there, get those fears out of you. And on paper, I shine the light of awareness on them. And this is in the workbook and the Quantum Leap workbook. What am I worried about? So maybe you might write Some things, I'm worried that I might fail. I'm worried that I'm not cut out for this, I'm worried that all of my friends will leave me. I mean, those are big fears, you know, they're legit, but write them down. I doubt that I'm afraid of, I doubt that I could do this, I doubt myself, I doubt my level of competence in this area, I doubt that I'll find the resources, put it all down there on paper, I'm afraid, I'll lose, I'm afraid that I can't do this, I'm afraid that I'll have to go back to my old self or my old job. Get it out on paper, those limiting beliefs don't belong to you, and you've done so much hard work on, on really getting rid of that that old baggage that's keeping you stuck. But sometimes when we shine the light of awareness on some of these fears, and worries and doubts, it's enough to get them to kind of dissipate and melt away, so to speak. But then, ask yourself, what would I rather believe? You know, if I wrote down, I'm worried that I'll lose my friends, I'm worried that I'm not cut out for this. What if I didn't believe that? What if I wasn't worried about that? But what I rather believe, I would rather believe that I'm lovable no matter what, and I attract my tribe, I attract the people who are in harmony with me. And my true friends are going to love me no matter what. And they're going to be inspired. Oh my gosh, isn't that more empowering? That's a more empowering way to see the world. So what I want you to do is think about these fears, worries and doubts, get them on paper, and then just be honest with yourself and ask, what would I rather believe? Are those new beliefs more empowering? What would be different if I truly believed these new beliefs, because what you're doing is you're putting yourself in harmony with what you seek.

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And that's how you do it. So write some affirmations around this new found courage, this new person that you are becoming, again, bring the end in mind? Who is this person who has achieved this goal? What is your level of confidence? Like? How do you speak? How do you dress? What kind of people are you surrounding yourself? With? What kind of relationships do you have with people? What is your home life? Like? How are you serving the world. So think with the end in mind, and become that person and write some powerful affirmations about that person, and your worth. And it's not enough to write affirmations, you have to get into the feeling of those affirmations and have your wish fulfilled. So remember, energy is everything our thoughts are energy. And when you've made the committed decision to go for a seagull, you're in harmony with that goal. And when you start taking action steps, and you start building on the self image like we're doing today, and you start affirming the person you are in the future, when you have this goal, and you start living from this goal, feeling what it would feel like to have this goal to be do or have the very thing you want, the kind of person you would become, when you start affirming that to yourself every day, and you start feeling into it, you'll start to notice that your habits will naturally change. A lot of these things that you in your action plan that felt unnatural to you in the beginning, will start to feel natural to you. And when you look back at the last three months or so, you'll need a telescope to look back at the person you were because it'll be so much embedded in the person you are today. So this is how you start to quiet the voice of dissent. That inner critic, you're replacing old paradigms and old beliefs that are no longer serving you with ones that are in harmony with your goal and through attrition. You're starving out those old beliefs, those old fears that aren't serving you anymore any longer. And you're replacing them with ones that are in harmony with the person you want to become. This is a daily practice and you're going to find when you are faced with fear and you will be because you are setting the right goal you're setting a sea goal. I have learned that fear is my friend when I am Setting a goal and I'm moving in that direction of I'm not a little bit afraid, I know that I'm moving laterally. So it's kind of

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a way for me to know that I'm on the right path. So fear can be your friend. So, you know, really look at your relationship with fear. And that might be a great affirmation for you to write down. Fear is my friend, I'm on the right path. And you'll look at it differently, you'll feel differently about it. And you'll bust through that will be called the terror barrier. And on the other side of that fear, is the freedom you seek. So this is how you start to arm yourself against negative influences. You have your goal, you have the plan, you're writing six action steps every single day that you could take toward that goal. And you're taking action steps every day, you're surrounding yourself with a mastermind, a coach or mentor, who can help you overcome and get through those blind spots. And you're arming yourself with a rock solid self image, the image of the person you want to become in the future, and you're affirming that to yourself, each and every day, these, these are the steps that you need to take. And it's a process. A lot of people don't want to do the work. But the work is in your your mindset. And everything else will fall into place much easier when you do this initial groundwork. So if you haven't already, if you're just joining us today, for this episode, go to rat race reboot.com and download the Quantum Leap handbook and get to work, I'll put the the web address in the show notes. So not to worry there. And also if you want some help with all the stuff, I'm here for you, I have a community of people and clients that I work with, and we support each other in this journey. It makes it so much more fun to surround yourself with like minded people who are were where you were and are going in a in a similar direction as you it just makes it that much more fulfilling. So I'll also put in the show notes, my calendar, if you want support, and you have questions on what that would look like, I want you to book a call with me. And I'm going to help you compress time and get there a lot quicker than if you were doing it on your own. But start with this quantum leap handbook. So I hope you got a lot of value out of these four steps to persistence that we talked about of the last three weeks, Napoleon Hill's book, Think and Grow Rich, if you don't have it, get it, it's a great read. And if you got value out of this little mini workshop series, I want you to go to rat race reboot.com Subscribe to our YouTube channel and leave your comments. Follow us on whatever platform you listen to your podcasts on and leave a five star review or a comment I read those and those help the algorithms and help us get this message out to a wider audience. So we're going to end today as we do every day getting you in harmony with your beautiful vision for your beautiful life. So if you're in a place a safe space, you're not driving, I want you to get connected with your breath. Take a deep inhale through your nose and exhale fully and completely. Take another deep inhale and exhale this is the year that you're going to get exactly what you want.

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It's already yours. You will persist. So I want you to have the end in mind.

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It's the end of this year. What will you celebrate? What accomplishments will you be most proud of?

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Imagine yourself at a party at the end of the year with the people you just admire respect and love. And you're toasting to something exciting that you accomplished. What would that be? See it in your mind's eye. Notice the expression on their faces as you share this wonderful news.

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How do you feel in that moment this is you. This is the life you created. So own it maybe start to bring into focus some of the sights and sounds in the space where you're sharing this wonderful news

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it's getting clearer and clearer in your mind receive it into your heart and feel into it this is the life you created. Relish in the joy of these achievements is relationships, these milestones, life experiences Welcome back. And again, I'm so grateful that you are joining us today. And I wish you a wonderful rest of your week. I am super excited for the coming weeks because we are going to start having some amazing guests on the show to inspire you. And they're going to share their stories on how they implement a lot of these concepts that I've been talking about through the past while the past year and this past month. So join us again next week. And until then, remember, everything is created twice. First in your imagination in mind, and then in physical form. We'll see you next week.

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